It’s no secret, dating a gamer can be incredibly frustrating at times. As much as we love our nerds, we sometimes find ourselves competing for attention and that can be disheartening. If your boyfriend has been letting go lately and perhaps spending a bit too much time in the virtual world, this is the article for you. We’re going to look at some tips on how to keep your gamer boyfriend healthy and engaged.
At this point you might be wondering why it’s up to you to worry about it. It should be their responsibility – which is absolutely true. However, sometimes men just need a little kick up the backside to motivate them.
Set some ground rules
You must lay down the law with a gamer. While it isn’t up to you to tell them what to do or control them, you can lay down some ground rules and expectations for your relationship. If they want to be with you, they must show a willingness to engage with you, dedicate plenty of time to you, and make you feel special. If they can’t take care of you and meet you half way, ask yourself: do they deserve you?
Remind them how lucky they are
Try to foster a culture of communication in your relationship. You should always be able to talk to your boyfriend and communicate your thoughts and feelings. Also, make sure you regularly remind them just how lucky they are to have such an amazing partner like you.
If you feel like your partner isn’t spending enough time engaging with you then tell them how you feel. Don’t say things like: “You spend too much time playing video games,” as it will likely aggravate them. Instead, try something like: “I want to spend more time with you”.
Play games with them
Gamers are very passionate about their hobby and if their partner shows a desire to join in and play games with them they will jump at the opportunity. This is a fun and exciting way to spend more time engaged with your partner – doing something that they love doing. However, it is also very important that they make time to join you in doing something that you love as well. Compromise with one another and spend time in each other’s worlds.
Encourage him to exercise between games
If your partner tends to have long gaming sessions, make sure he’s getting plenty of exercise in between. He must take regular breaks, stand-up and walk around. Often there can be a good 5-minutes or so before the next match which is the ideal time to do some squats and push-ups.
Keep things exciting in the bedroom
If you’d like to keep your boyfriend’s gaze off the computer screen and on your body, then spice things up in the bedroom as often as possible. Remember, this takes two! If your partner isn’t making any effort to keep your relationship alive then it’s something you should raise with him immediately. However, if he does make an effort to make you feel loved and special, and you do want to stay with him, then make an effort to mix things up as often as possible. Search online for some sex toys for him and see if there’s anything that catches your eye.
Play games that take you outdoors
Pokémon Go is a great example of an application that takes people outside and encourages them to exercise. If your partner is an avid gamer, then suggest that you both play it together and commit some time to going outside in the world and getting plenty of fresh air! If he’s not one for Pokémon, there are plenty of variations of this augmented reality game, such as collecting dinosaurs or running away from zombies!